Not a Good Look


I normally set aside time for my blog each week to share some tidbit of fashion fun, but I just didn’t have it in me this week. I was consumed by the Kavanaugh confirmation hearing. I’m not going to recount the horrific experience Dr. Christine Blasey Ford shared with the entire world & I’m not even going to comment on Judge Kavanaugh’s testimony. What I am going to talk about is how this has trickled down locally.

The editor & owner of our local press wrote an opinion piece in which he equated the allegations against Kavanaugh to junior high kissing games such as spin the bottle. Needless to say I was infuriated. So infuriated that I made a plan to write a letter to the editor.

Before I could even get started someone informed me of a local grade school board member’s public Facebook post calling Dr. Ford a whore. You read that correctly (if anyone is still reading) an elected official with the responsibility of ensuring a safe learning environment for children called a sexual assault victim a whore.

What ensued over the weekend was a mini protest. The school board member’s post was shared across social media sparking phone calls & emails to pour into the school, the school board association, & the board of education. The school has attempted to slightly distance themselves from the post with a press release denouncing the post as personal opinion & not reflective of the school or board.

An opportunity arose for some healthy discourse, but as you may have guessed, what arose primarily was a bunch of name calling. What I found so interesting were the people defending this man. He has done a lot of volunteer work in our community & surrounding areas, but he also made a public derogatory statement. Actually, he frequently makes public derogatory statements. And people agree with him because we reside in a proudly red county downstream from the blue Chicago swamp. They are espousing claims to freedom of speech & supporting him for his many virtues because they agree with his political & religious agenda.

I don’t agree with him politically or religiously, but that isn’t what prompted me to go ahead & write a letter to the editor addressing the column as well as the facebook post. What needs to be addressed is the misogynistic language these men use. It signals other victims they are not safe to come forward. That’s the real problem.

Oh & don’t cry to me about fearing for your sons future because some girl could accuse him of anything & ruin his life. We teach our daughters what to wear, how to behave, where to go, what to drink, & on & on & on so your sons don’t think that something our daughters did invited sexual assault.

We have a real problem in this country with rape culture & its roots run deep. What can seem like the most innocuous comment, “girls were nice enough not to complain,” can lead to believing its acceptable to call an assault victim a whore. Talk about draining the swamp. Maybe their mama should’ve washed their mouths out with soap.

No apologies for the digression. Come back Sunday if you’re just here for the fashion.


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